The Secret Thoughts of Successful Women

Why Capable People Suffer from the Impostor Syndrome and how to Thrive in Spite of it

Author: Valerie Young (Ed.D.)

Publisher: Crown Pub

ISBN: 0307452719

Category: Self-Help

Page: 292

View: 1448

Helps successful women feel truly confident so that they can reach new levels of greatness.

The Secret Thoughts of Successful Women

Why Capable People Suffer from the Impostor Syndrome and How to Thrive in Spite of It

Author: Valerie Young

Publisher: Crown Business

ISBN: 0307452735

Category: Business & Economics

Page: 304

View: 414

Learn to take ownership of your success, overcome self-doubt, and banish the thought patterns that undermine your ability to feel—and act—as bright and capable as others already know you are with this award-winning book by Valerie Young. It’s only because they like me. I was in the right place at the right time. I just work harder than the others. I don’t deserve this. It’s just a matter of time before I am found out. Someone must have made a terrible mistake. If you are a working woman, chances are this inter­nal monologue sounds all too familiar. And you’re not alone. From the high-achieving Ph.D. candidate convinced she’s only been admitted to the program because of a clerical error to the senior executive who worries others will find out she’s in way over her head, a shocking number of accomplished women in all ca­reer paths and at every level feel as though they are faking it—impostors in their own lives and careers. While the impostor syndrome is not unique to women, women are more apt to agonize over tiny mistakes, see even constructive criticism as evi­dence of their shortcomings, and chalk up their accomplishments to luck rather than skill. They often unconsciously overcompensate with crippling perfec­tionism, overpreparation, maintaining a lower pro­file, withholding their talents and opinions, or never finishing important projects. When they do succeed, they think, Phew, I fooled ’em again. An internationally known speaker, Valerie Young has devoted her career to understanding women’s most deeply held beliefs about themselves and their success. In her decades of in-the-trenches research, she has uncovered the often surprising reasons why so many accomplished women experience this crushing self-doubt. In The Secret Thoughts of Successful Women, Young gives these women the solution they have been seek­ing. Combining insightful analysis with effective ad­vice and anecdotes, she explains what the impostor syndrome is, why fraud fears are more common in women, and how you can recognize the way it mani­fests in your life.

Beating the Impostor Syndrome

Author: Portia Mount,Susan Tardanico

Publisher: Center for Creative Leadership

ISBN: 160491663X

Category: Business & Economics

Page: 20

View: 3625

The Impostor Syndrome is a well-researched, well-documented phenomenon that occurs when successful and intelligent professionals feel they do not deserve their accomplishments and that they have faked their way to success. This syndrome can cause negative stress, fear, anxiety, loss of confidence, and can eventually lead to derailment. However, by overcoming inaccurate beliefs about yourself and your abilities, you can overcome the Impostor Syndrome and enjoy a more fulfilling career.

The Empress Has No Clothes

Conquering Self-Doubt to Embrace Success

Author: Joyce M. Roché,Alexander Kopelman

Publisher: Berrett-Koehler Publishers

ISBN: 1609946383

Category: Business & Economics

Page: 240

View: 2909

You Deserve Your Success! Joyce Roché rose from humble circumstances to earn an Ivy League MBA and become the first female African-American vice president of Avon, president of a leading hair care company, and CEO of the national nonprofit Girls Inc. But despite these accomplishments, she felt like a fraud. She worked more and more, had less and less of a personal life, and was never able to enjoy her success. In this deeply personal memoir, Roché shares her lifelong struggle with what she now recognizes as “the impostor syndrome,” a condition that plagues successful people in all walks of life. Based on her own experiences and those of top executives from organizations such as Eileen Fisher, Citigroup, BET, Pepsi, and Tupperware, she offers practical advice and valuable coping strategies that can help you embrace your own worth and live a life of joy, zest, and fulfillment. “The impostor syndrome is all too common among highly successful people—and until now a closely guarded secret! Joyce Roché’s insights will make success at each stage of our life and career a more joyful experience for those of us—such as me—who have felt this insecurity.” —Rick Goings, Chairman and CEO, Tupperware Brands Corporation “Whether you are just starting your career or are nearing its pinnacle, this book will do more than help you navigate effectively; it will help you enjoy the journey.” —Earl “Butch” Graves Jr., President and CEO, Black Enterprise “This is a book that is so needed by women—especially younger women. [It] offers hope, guidance, and gentle mentorship to all of us who have ever confronted the fear of not measuring up.” —Rosina L. Racioppi, President and CEO, Women Unlimited, Inc. “Silence and isolation are the hallmarks of the impostor syndrome. Joyce’s courage in speaking out will be tremendously helpful to all those who have ever experienced these feelings by letting them know that they are not alone.” —Pauline Rose Clance, PhD, psychotherapist who, with Suzanne Imes, PhD, first identified the impostor syndrome

The impostor phenomenon

overcoming the fear that haunts your success

Author: Pauline Rose Clance

Publisher: Peachtree Pub Ltd

ISBN: 9780931948770

Category: Psychology

Page: 209

View: 7343

A self-help book for those who cannot enjoy success because they feel that they have gotten ahead because of reasons other than their own abilities

The Payoff Principle

Discover the 3 Secrets for Getting What You Want Out of Life and Work

Author: Alan Zimmerman

Publisher: Greenleaf Book Group

ISBN: 1626341745

Category: Business & Economics

Page: 288

View: 8367

Where do you hope to go with your life, your career, and your relationships? How will you muster the energy to keep on keeping on, in the good times and the bad? What skills do you have to learn—and then use—to make sure you get the payoffs you really want in your professional life and your personal life? The problem with so many positive-thinking books and self-help routines is that they don’t give you the whole formula. The Payoff Principle gives you that formula—Purpose + Passion + Process = Payoff—and then works as your guidebook, teaching you how to apply the formula to achieve success at work, at home, and everywhere you go. When you find purpose in what you do, exhibit passion for the outcome, and master the process to make it happen, you produce the payoffs you want, need, and deserve. Plenty of people have done exactly that, whether consciously and deliberately or accidently and luckily. But, you don’t have to depend on luck anymore. You have a formula for getting what you want. You have a practical set of strategies guaranteed to deliver greater happiness and success than you’ve ever experienced. All you have to do now is read The Payoff Principle to learn how to implement the formula to experience the new-and-complete you.

The Confidence Code

The Science and Art of Self-Assurance---What Women Should Know

Author: Katty Kay,Claire Shipman

Publisher: Harper Collins

ISBN: 0062230646

Category: Business & Economics

Page: 256

View: 6778

Following the success of Lean In and Why Women Should Rule the World, the authors of the bestselling Womenomics provide an informative and practical guide to understanding the importance of confidence—and learning how to achieve it—for women of all ages and at all stages of their career. Working women today are better educated and more well qualified than ever before. Yet men still predominate in the corporate world. In The Confidence Code, Claire Shipman and Katty Kay argue that the key reason is confidence. Combining cutting-edge research in genetics, gender, behavior, and cognition—with examples from their own lives and those of other successful women in politics, media, and business—Kay and Shipman go beyond admonishing women to "lean in."Instead, they offer the inspiration and practical advice women need to close the gap and achieve the careers they want and deserve.

The Impostor Syndrome

How to Replace Self-doubt with Self-confidence and Train Your Brain for Success

Author: John Graden

Publisher: Xlibris Corporation

ISBN: N.A

Category: Self-Help

Page: 123

View: 678

Do You Feel You Are Not as Smart, Skilled, or Talented as People Think You Are? Some of Hollywood's biggest names, such as Mike Myers, Jodi Foster, Don Cheadle, Bob Fosse, Michelle Pfeiffer, and Kate Winslet have gone on record stating that, despite their success, they feel as though they are frauds. Experts call this The Impostor Syndrome and afflicts over 70% of the population. The Impostor Syndrome is the underlying feeling that you are not as smart, skilled, or talented as people think you are. It's a dread that people will find out you are faking it. How do you know if you suffer from The Impostor Syndrome? In his book, "The Impostor Syndrome: How to Replace Self-Doubt with Self-Confidence and Train Your Brain for Success, John Graden outlines some possible indicators:" 1. Do you sometimes not speak up because you feel people will realize you're not as smart as they think you are? 2. Do you find it hard to accept praise? 3. Is it difficult for you to take credit for your accomplishments? 4. Do you feel like a fake and fear you are going to be found out soon? 5. Are you a perfectionist who is terrified of making a mistake? If any of these statements apply to you, you may suffer from The Impostor Syndrome. According to Graden, "This is the big, unspoken issue that holds so many people back. Every time I mention this to someone, the response is always, "Oh my God! That's me! You mean there's a name for it?" Experts have different theories on what causes The Impostor Syndrome. Some say it's psychologically based, while others feel it a cultural phenomenon. Graden says his interest is in helping people to overcome it, just as he did. Graden created the worlds' largest professional association and trade journal for the martial arts industry, and is widely credited with bringing the industry from the back alley to the boardroom, all while battling The Impostor Syndrome. Graden says. "I was watching TV many years ago, and I heard Paul Newman say, "I always have this feeling that someone is going to push through the crowd, grab my arm and say, It's over Newman.' It's all been a mistake " I knew right away what he meant because I had the same feeling. It wasn't until 20-years later, when I told that story at a seminar, someone told me that was The Impostor Syndrome." Graden now conducts seminars and workshops overcoming the self-doubt associated with The Impostor Syndrome.

Drop the Ball

Achieving More by Doing Less

Author: Tiffany Dufu

Publisher: Flatiron Books

ISBN: 1250071755

Category: Business & Economics

Page: 304

View: 3140

A bold and inspiring memoir and manifesto from a renowned voice in the women's leadership movement who shows women how to cultivate the single skill they really need in order to thrive: the ability to let go. Once the poster girl for doing it all, after she had her first child, Tiffany Dufu struggled to accomplish everything she thought she needed to in order to succeed. Like so many driven and talented women who have been brought up to believe that to have it all, they must do it all, Dufu began to feel that achieving her career and personal goals was an impossibility. Eventually, she discovered the solution: letting go. In Drop the Ball, Dufu recounts how she learned to reevaluate expectations, shrink her to-do list, and meaningfully engage the assistance of others—freeing the space she needed to flourish at work and to develop deeper, more meaningful relationships at home. Even though women are half the workforce, they still represent only eighteen per cent of the highest level leaders. The reasons are obvious: just as women reach middle management they are also starting families. Mounting responsibilities at work and home leave them with no bandwidth to do what will most lead to their success. Offering new perspective on why the women’s leadership movement has stalled, and packed with actionable advice, Tiffany Dufu’s Drop the Ball urges women to embrace imperfection, to expect less of themselves and more from others—only then can they focus on what they truly care about, devote the necessary energy to achieving their real goals, and create the type of rich, rewarding life we all desire.

How Women Decide

Author: Therese Huston

Publisher: HMH

ISBN: 0544416104

Category: Psychology

Page: 384

View: 8059

“An authoritative guide to help women navigate the workplace and their everyday life with greater success and impact” (Forbes). So, you’ve earned a seat at the table. What happens next? We all face hard decisions every day—and the choices we make, and how others perceive them, can be life changing. There are countless books on how to make those tough calls, but How Women Decide is the first to examine a much overlooked truth: Men and women reach verdicts differently, and often in surprising ways. Stress? It makes women more focused. Confidence? Caution can lead to stronger resolutions. And despite popular misconceptions, women are just as decisive as men—though they may pay for it. Pulling from the latest science on decision-making, as well as lively stories of real women and their experiences, cognitive scientist Therese Huston teaches us how we can better shape our habits, perceptions, and strategies, not just to make the most of our own opportunities, but to reform the culture and bring out the best results—regardless of who’s behind them.

The Impostor Syndrome

Becoming an Authentic Leader

Author: Harold Hillman

Publisher: N.A

ISBN: 9781775535270

Category: Impostor phenomenon

Page: 160

View: 2300

How to be a better leader, confident in your own abilities. Many people privately fear they are not properly qualified to do the job they have been appointed to - and this fear undermines their capabilities. Learn how to overcome this problem and become a better, stronger leader. Be able to express your fears and recognize your weaknesses, but also be able to harness your strengths and those of your team to the best effect.

Why Should I Choose You (in Seven Words Or Less)?

Author: Ian Chamandy,Ken Aber

Publisher: HarperCollins

ISBN: 1443436410

Category: Business & Economics

Page: 272

View: 2791

How to answer the single most important question in business and life Why should I choose you? That’s the question every customer asks every single time he buys a car, picks a shampoo, or chooses a distributor, a brokerage house, an animal hospital or a hairbrush. Sometimes the question is spoken out loud; other times it’s subliminal. But the fact is that every product, service or decision is a choice. And often it’s a choice we make within seconds. Ian Chamandy and Ken Aber understand just how essential that choice is. Their Toronto-based consulting firm, Blueprint, helps businesses define their specific promise--the one thing that sets them apart from every other organization that does more or less the same thing--in seven words or less. Their blueprinting process has produced extraordinary results for organizations big and small, in all sorts of industries, in both the for profit and not-for-profit sectors, including construction firms, marketing/communications consultancies, boutique investment banks, and hospitals. Combining combines practical steps with case examples, Why Should I Choose You (in Seven Words or Less) will: give you confidence you never had before to lead into a bold new future make your employees more innovative and creative reveal revenue streams you never knew existed give your employees a newfound sense of purpose that motivates them to contribute at a higher level and help you sell faster and more easily because you will inspire, rather than try to convince, customers to buy

Powerful

Building a Culture of Freedom and Responsibility

Author: Patty McCord

Publisher: Tom Rath

ISBN: 1939714117

Category: Business & Economics

Page: 228

View: 4094

Named by The Washington Post as one of the 11 Leadership Books to Read in 2018 When it comes to recruiting, motivating, and creating great teams, Patty McCord says most companies have it all wrong. McCord helped create the unique and high-performing culture at Netflix, where she was chief talent officer. In her new book, Powerful: Building a Culture of Freedom and Responsibility, she shares what she learned there and elsewhere in Silicon Valley. McCord advocates practicing radical honesty in the workplace, saying good-bye to employees who don’t fit the company’s emerging needs, and motivating with challenging work, not promises, perks, and bonus plans. McCord argues that the old standbys of corporate HR—annual performance reviews, retention plans, employee empowerment and engagement programs—often end up being a colossal waste of time and resources. Her road-tested advice, offered with humor and irreverence, provides readers a different path for creating a culture of high performance and profitability. Powerful will change how you think about work and the way a business should be run.

Fear of Winning

Author: Michael J. Bader

Publisher: CreateSpace

ISBN: 9781517239473

Category:

Page: 66

View: 2317

Political progressives have been under siege from a tsunami of money and attacks, both legal and political, from the Right for a long time. However, as psychologist and psychoanalyst Dr. Michael Bader argues, they are also often handicapped by internal conflicts about authority, power, and success, conflicts that make up what is typically called the Imposter Syndrome. Afflicted by feelings of fraudulence, progressive leaders and organizers often react by making themselves and their organizations less effective and inspiring than they might otherwise be. Dr. Bader describes a personal change process that can help leaders overcome their discomfort with power and free them up to develop winning political strategies. ***** "In his book Fear of Winning, Dr. Michael Bader addresses one of the most pernicious and widespread anxieties that leaders of all stripes, shapes, and sizes confront on all too regular a basis: the imposter syndrome. While focusing on leaders in the Progressive movement, Bader's work will help leaders in all domains understand and come to terms with this potentially derailing phenomenon. Bader's treatment of the topic is cogent, thorough, accessible and actionable. Bader is clearly passionate about the topic as well as compassionate for leaders who are dealing with its various consequences. His 8-step program for change will prove an invaluable source of help for leaders everywhere in effectively dealing with the imposter syndrome." -Michael R. McGrath, Ph.D. Adjunct Professor of Executive Education at the Ross School of Business, University of Michigan. ***** "Michael Bader is spot-on about the prevalence of the imposter syndrome in progressive leaders. In my thirty-five years of experience as a top leader of a dynamic and progressive labor union, I had occasion to see many examples of what Bader describes among the wide assortment of leaders with whom I closely worked in labor and across the progressive movement. -Anna Burger, Co-Chair Gettysburg Project on Civic Engagement, retired Secretary-Treasurer of the Service Employees International Union, Chair of Change to Win

The Joy of Science

Author: Roel Snieder,Jen Schneider

Publisher: Cambridge University Press

ISBN: 1107145554

Category: Science

Page: 216

View: 2651

This book offers guidance to scientists and engineers seeking more satisfying, balanced, and successful personal and professional lives.

Nice Girls Just Don't Get It

99 Ways to Win the Respect You Deserve, the Success You've Earned, and the Life You Want

Author: Lois P. Frankel,Carol Frohlinger

Publisher: Harmony

ISBN: 0307590488

Category: Self-Help

Page: 320

View: 642

Offering the same brand of practical, no-holds-barred, expert advice that made Nice Girls Don't Get the Corner Office an international million-copy bestseller, Nice Girls Just Don't Get It teaches us the skills we need to turn from a nice girl into a winning woman, not just in our careers but in our relationships, families, and everyday lives. Have you ever felt invisible? Taken advantage of? Reluctant (or unable) to articulate what you really want? If so, join the club. The nice girls club. Nice girls—that's right, girls—are those more concerned with pleasing others than with addressing their own needs and haven't yet learned how to overcome the childhood messages cultural stereotypes keeping them from getting their voices heard, their needs met, and the lives they want. This book will turn those nice girls into winning women. That is, women who factor their own needs in with those of others, confront those who treat them disrespectfully, maintain healthy and mutually beneficial relationships with appropriate boundaries— and as a result, are happier and more successful in every area of their life. In 2004, Lois Frankel blew the lid off so many of our long-held ideas about gender and success with her bestselling Nice Girls Don't Get the Corner Office, which went on to become such a huge phenomenon, the term "nice girls" has secured a place in our cultural lexicon. Here, Frankel teams up with negotiation expert Carol Frohlinger to bring this bestselling advice out of the workplace and provide a broader set of skills that any woman—whether a CEO or stay-at-home mom—can use to win anywhere, with anyone. Presented in the straightforward, digestible format that helped make Nice Girl's Don't Get the Corner Office an instant hit, Frankel and Frohlinger outline seven practical strategies and 99 supporting tactics that every winning woman should know. By the time you've finished reading this book, you'll be able to: • Get your husband to do his half of the household chores—without being made to feel like a nag. • Stop overextending yourself by taking on all the unpleasant tasks no one on your volunteer board, or your team at work will go near. • Win an argument with your mother in law about who will be hosting Christmas dinner. • Have the courage to send back a meal that isn’t prepared the way you’d ordered it. • Confront a colleague who is shirking responsibility or taking credit for your work. • Convince a sales person to reduce a fee, waive a surcharge, or honor a store credit. • Question a doctor’s course or treatment or request a second opinion, instead of simply going along in order to be a “good” patient. • Firmly but politely bow out of an extravagant vacation to celebrate a friend’s birthday that you simply can’t afford–without feeling guilty about it. And so much more. A must-read for anyone who's ever felt taken advantage of by a friend or family member, unappreciated by a spouse or partner, or exploited by a vindictive neighbor or co-worker, Nice Girls Just Don't Get It offers women the indispensable knowledge and skills to get the things they want, the respect they've earned, and the success they deserve. From the Hardcover edition.

Embracing Uncertainty

Breakthrough Methods for Achieving Peace of Mind When Facing the Unknown

Author: Susan Jeffers, Ph.D.

Publisher: St. Martin's Press

ISBN: 1429975865

Category: Self-Help

Page: 320

View: 1818

Author of Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway From the multi-million bestselling author of Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway comes a powerful and healing book designed to offer a safety net in a world of never-ending change. It may be one of the most comforting and life-affirming books you will ever read. With her invaluable insights and exercises, Susan Jeffers gives you the tools you need to deal with all the uncertainty in your life with a sense of peace and possibility. You will learn: - Forty-two exercises to help make your life an exciting adventure instead of a continuous worry - How to lighten up and put problems into a life-affirming perspective - The amazing power of the word "maybe" - And much more. You will discover that there is a wondrous, joyous, and abundant life that can exist in the presence of uncertainty. The question is, "What do you need to do to reach this wonderful state?" And the answers abound in Embracing Uncertainty..

Here's the Plan.

Your Practical, Tactical Guide to Advancing Your Career During Pregnancy and Parenthood

Author: Allyson Downey

Publisher: Seal Press

ISBN: 1580056199

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 240

View: 5781

For many women in their 20's and 30's, the greatest professional hurdle they'll need to overcome has little to do with their work life. The most focused, confident, and ambitious women can find themselves derailed by a tiny little thing: a new baby. While more workplaces are espousing family-friendly cultures, women are still subject to a "parenting penalty" and high-profile conflicts between parenting and the workplace are all over the news: from the controversy over companies covering the costs of egg-freezing to the debate over parental leave and childcare inspired by Mark Zuckerberg's two-month paternity leave. Here's the Plan offers an inventive and inspiring roadmap for working mothers steering their careers through the parenting years. Author Allyson Downey—founder of weeSpring, the “Yelp for baby products,” and mother of two young children—advises readers on all practical aspects of ladder-climbing while parenting, such as negotiating leave, flex time, and promotions. In the style of #GIRLBOSS or Nice Girls Don't Get the Corner Office, Here's the Plan is the definitive guide for ambitious mothers, written by one working mother to another.