The Verbal and Emotional Abuser

Recognizing the Verbal Abusive Relationship and How to Defend Yourself

Author: Michele Gilbert

Publisher: CreateSpace

ISBN: 9781511977296


Page: 26

View: 7089

Have You Had Enough? Are You Mad Enough? You Do Not Deserve This Abuse So what can you do? In this book are strategies for understanding and identifying abusive individuals. Being able to understand abusive behavior and identify its first stage, verbal abuse, is the key to freeing yourself from the grasp of an abusive person. By identifying verbal abuse as it occurs, you can possibly avert the chance of verbal abuse escalating into physical abuse. To begin to understand abuse, you must understand why people become abusive Secondly, you must learn the consequences of abuse. Thirdly, you will learn what forms verbal abuse takes within the bounds of an intimate relationship. And, finally, how to manage and free yourself of the pain caused by an abuser Are you are ready to take the first steps towards freedom from verbal abuse, Then let's get started!. Gaining knowledge is an empowering experience and can lead to greater personal freedom and self-fulfillment. What You'll Learn... Understanding an Abuser The Consequences of Abuse Abuse in an Intimate Relationship Managing the Pain Would You Like To Know More? Download "The Verbal And Emotional Abuser Recognizing The Verbal Abusive Relationship And How To Defend Yourself"

The Verbally Abusive Relationship

How to Recognize it and how to Respond

Author: Patricia Evans

Publisher: Simon and Schuster

ISBN: 1440504636

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 240

View: 6396

Discusses the potential damage of verbal abuse, how to identify a problem relationship, and how to change or leave the situation.

Verbal Abuse

How to Save a Child from It. Understanding and Preventing.

Author: Emma Gertony

Publisher: Createspace Independent Publishing Platform

ISBN: 9781545317471


Page: 62

View: 8894

Verbal abuse: How to save a child from it. Understanding and preventing. Children are arguably the most vulnerable members of society. They are in the process of developing a sense of self, learning the ways of the world, and internalizing thought and behavior patterns that will accompany them for life. When a child is surrounded by supportive adults, like parents, caretakers, teachers, and coaches, they are likely to feel encouraged and safe as they begin to test how their ideas fit into the world. What happens, however, if a child does not have supportive adults around them? What if a child encounters a verbally abusive adult in their lives? In this book, you will learn what verbal abuse is, what damage it might cause and how to help verbally abused children and adults, who were abused as children. It seems like a far-fetched idea that any adult could intentionally verbally abuse a child. There is no logical reason for that type of behavior, and one might think - why would it happen? Unfortunately, it does happen. Here you will find the reason why it happens and how to prevent yourself from abusing children. More importantly, you will learn how to save a child from damage that was caused by verbal abuse. Children learn and develop by observing the adults around them and internalizing the values, thoughts, and behaviors they are witness to. A child who is verbally abused is at risk of internalizing very damaging self-evaluations and patterns of thinking. Do not wait! Prevent your child from this danger!

Why Does He Do That?

Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men

Author: Lundy Bancroft

Publisher: Penguin

ISBN: 9780425191651

Category: Psychology

Page: 408

View: 2159

A leading authority on abusive relationships offers women detailed guidelines on how to improve and survive an abusive relationship, discussing various types of abusive men, analyzing societal myths surrounding abuse, and answers questions about the warning signs of abuse, how to identify abusive behavior, how to know if one is in danger, and more. Reprint.

If He's So Great, Why Do I Feel So Bad?

Recognizing and Overcoming Subtle Abuse

Author: Avery Neal

Publisher: Citadel

ISBN: 0806538627

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 288

View: 8641

Foreword by Lois P. Frankel, Ph.D., New York Times bestselling author of Nice Girls Don’t Get the Corner Office ARE YOU A VICTIM OF SUBTLE ABUSE? Are you always the one apologizing? Constantly questioning and blaming yourself? Do you often feel confused, frustrated, and angry? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you’re not alone. Nearly half of all women—and men—in the United States experience psychological abuse without realizing it. Manipulation, deception, and disrespect leave no physical scars, but they can be just as traumatic as physical abuse. In this groundbreaking book, Avery Neal, founder of the Women’s Therapy Clinic, helps you recognize the warning signs of subtle abuse. As you learn to identify patterns that have never made sense before, you are better equipped to make changes. From letting go of fear to setting boundaries, whether you’re gathering the courage to finally leave or learning how to guard against a chronically abusive pattern, If He’s So Great, Why Do I Feel So Bad? will help you enjoy a happy, healthy, fulfilling life, free of shame or blame. “This book can open eyes for people who may have lost pieces of themselves along the way. Great examples and exercises. It is a companion from start to finish.” —Dr. Jay Carter, author of Nasty People “No-nonsense insights and practical ways to regain control of and empower your life.” —Dr. George Simon, author of In Sheep’s Clothing “The new gold standard in abuse recovery, allowing readers to break free from old patterns and reclaim their lives.” —Jackson MacKenzie, author of Psychopath Free “This insightful book can awaken self-esteem, save relationships, even save lives.” —Gavin de Becker, author of The Gift of Fear

Respect-Me Rules

Author: Michael J. Marshall,Shelly Marshall

Publisher: Cedar Fort

ISBN: 9781599558370

Category: Self-Help

Page: 163

View: 2436

Emotional and verbal abuse often go unnoticed - sometimes even by the abused - until they become something much more serious. This book will teach you about the miracle principle and the proven respect-me method to help you recognize the problem, regain self-respect, and change for the better. These invaluable lessons will help you improve your relationships and get you the support you need.

Emotional Abuse

A Manual for Self-Defense

Author: Zak Mucha

Publisher: N.A

ISBN: 9781540835185


Page: 196

View: 8885

From the introduction by Joel Dvoskin, Ph.D.: "But what happens when no one has the courage to intervene, to prevent the pain of another? While Zak Mucha's explanation of the harms of emotional abuse is useful, it pales in comparison to his wisdom in teaching us emotional self-defense. Learning to protect ourselves from emotional abuse changes everything. The victim no longer has to hope for the kindness of strangers, or that the abuser will simply get tired of their verbal assaults. "Thanks to this wonderful book, each of us can learn to be our own hero, by learning some simple yet powerful ways to respond to emotional abuse. "You are about to go on a journey that is at once deeply personal and scientifically valid. This book has been waiting a long time to be written." * Like any self-defense, we have to first identify "what hurts." We have to recognize our own pain. We have been socialized to believe emotional abuse is not serious. We have been taught emotional abuse itself is nothing more than "hurt feelings" and there is no "real" evidence other than the victim's complaints. And if the only evidence is the victim's complaints, we wrongly justify, there is no way to verify whether a person was "actually hurt." The victim of emotional abuse is dismissed precisely because he or she cannot "prove" their feelings. Emotional abuse creates a vicious dynamic where the victim is taught his or her feelings do not count and any pain suffered is, somehow, their own fault. Like any other abuse, emotional abuse is about power. Whoever can define reality has the ultimate power. In emotional abuse, the aggressor attempts to define reality with statements like, "You're too sensitive," and "I couldn't help it. You made me mad." Each statement is an attempt to shape how another person perceives reality. Our self-defense depends on our willingness to identify the boundaries that define who we are and the criteria we desire for relationship. In doing this, we can defend ourselves and define our selves.

Coercive Control

How Men Entrap Women in Personal Life

Author: Evan Stark

Publisher: Oxford University Press

ISBN: 0190288523

Category: Social Science

Page: 464

View: 1917

One of the most important books ever written on domestic violence, Coercive Control breaks through entrenched views of physical abuse that have ultimately failed to protect women. Evan Stark, founder of one of America's first battered women's shelters, shows how "domestic violence" is neither primarily domestic nor necessarily violent, but a pattern of controlling behaviors more akin to terrorism and hostage-taking. Drawing on court records, interviews, and FBI statistics, Stark details coercive strategies that men use to deny women their very personhood, from "beeper games" to food logs to micromanaging dress, speech, sexual activity, and work. Stark urges us to move beyond the injury model and focus on the real victimization that allows men to violate women's human rights with impunity. Provocative and brilliantly argued, Coercive Control reframes abuse as a liberty crime rather than a crime of assault and points the way to bringing "real" equality for women in line with their formal rights to personhood and citizenship, freedom and safety.

Controlling People

How to Recognize, Understand, and Deal With People Who Try to Control You

Author: Patricia Evans

Publisher: Simon and Schuster

ISBN: 1440501904

Category: Psychology

Page: 352

View: 740

Learn how to 'break the spell' of control with Patricia Evans' new bestseller. Already hailed by Oprah Winfrey, Controlling People deals with issues big and small - revealing the thought processes of those who seek to control in order to provide a 'spell-breaking' mind-set for those who suffer this insidious manipulation. Invaluable insight and advice for those who seek support.

The Verbally Abusive Man - Can He Change?

A Woman's Guide to Deciding Whether to Stay Or Go

Author: Patricia Evans

Publisher: Simon and Schuster

ISBN: 1593376537

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 269

View: 4574

Practical applications and the latest clinical research are combined with the trademark support and assurance of the author in this guide that provides victims of verbal abuse the tools they need to transform their relationships. Original. 75,000 first printing.

Verbal & Emotional Abuse

Author: June Hunt

Publisher: Aspire Press

ISBN: 1596367237

Category: Religion

Page: 96

View: 9636

How to Get Victory Over Verbal or Emotional Abuse Abuse - whether through hurtful words, degrading looks, obscene gesture, or threatening behavior - inflicts immense pain and impedes emotional growth. We have all been wounded by hurtful words and actions of others - whether the bully at school, the demeaning boss, a rage-filled driver, or someone in our own family. We often carry those wounds with us for a lifetime. June Hunt has a message for you: it is possible to stop the pain of abuse. Learn biblical truths and practical advice on how to: •Stop the abuse •Heal the pain of the past •Foster peace in all your relationships June Hunt starts this mini-book with a definitions section where she explains each word associated with verbal or emotional abuse. •Forms of emotional abuse •Warning signs of verbal or emotional abuse •How to identify sabotage and manipulation Learn all forms of abuse and what to pay attention to when a relationship gives off warning signs. Also included in the definitions section are biblical examples of verbal and emotional abuse. This mini-book will shed light on the characteristics of verbal and emotional abuse, words used in abusive conversations, methods of sabotage, and examples of what the victims may experience when dealing with an abusive relationship. Discover the causes of a person who abuses others and answer hard questions like, "How can he be so cruel?" and "How can he be so insensitive?" The last section gives you practical advice on how to end abuse with: •7 steps to victory over verbal abuse •6 steps to an action plan •8 steps for how to confront and cope with emotionally abusive people •Honesty test for those who may be abusive •5 steps to building personal boundaries •And much more.

The Emotionally Abusive Relationship

How to Stop Being Abused and How to Stop Abusing

Author: Beverly Engel

Publisher: John Wiley & Sons

ISBN: 0471374474

Category: Self-Help

Page: 272

View: 3457

"Engel doesn't just describe-she shows us the way out." -Susan Forward, author of Emotional Blackmail Praise for the emotionally abusive relationship "In this book, Beverly Engel clearly and with caring offers step-by-step strategies to stop emotional abuse. . . helping both victims and abusers to identify the patterns of this painful and traumatic type of abuse. This book is a guide both for individuals and for couples stuck in the tragic patterns of emotional abuse." -Marti Loring, Ph.D., author of Emotional Abuse and coeditor of The Journal of Emotional Abuse "This groundbreaking book succeeds in helping people stop emotional abuse by focusing on both the abuser and the abused and showing each party what emotional abuse is, how it affects the relationship, and how to stop it. Its unique focus on the dynamic relationship makes it more likely that each person will grasp the tools for change and really use them." -Randi Kreger, author of The Stop Walking on Eggshells Workbook and owner of The number of people who become involved with partners who abuse them emotionally and/or who are emotionally abusive themselves is phenomenal, and yet emotional abuse is the least understood form of abuse. In this breakthrough book, Beverly Engel, one of the world's leading experts on the subject, shows us what it is and what to do about it. Whether you suspect you are being emotionally abused, fear that you might be emotionally abusing your partner, or think that both you and your partner are emotionally abusing each other, this book is for you. The Emotionally Abusive Relationship will tell you how to identify emotional abuse and how to find the roots of your behavior. Combining dramatic personal stories with action steps to heal, Engel provides prescriptive strategies that will allow you and your partner to work together to stop bringing out the worst in each other and stop the abuse. By teaching those who are being emotionally abused how to help themselves and those who are being emotionally abusive how to stop abusing, The Emotionally Abusive Relationship offers the expert guidance and support you need.

Codependency For Dummies

Author: Darlene Lancer

Publisher: John Wiley & Sons

ISBN: 1118982096

Category: Self-Help

Page: 360

View: 5343

Your trusted guide to value yourself and break the patterns of codependency Codependency For Dummies, 2nd Edition is the most comprehensive book on the topic to date. Written in plain English and packed with sensitive, authoritative information, it describes the history, symptoms, causes, and relationship dynamics of codependency. The majority of the book is devoted to healing and lays out a clear plan for recovery with exercises, practical advice, and daily reminders to help you know, honor, protect, and express yourself. New to this edition are chapters on working the Twelve Steps to recover from codependency and how therapists/coaches/nurses are affected by codependency. Codependence is primarily a learned behavior from our family of origin. Some cultures have it to a greater degree than others—some still see it as a normal way of living. Yet the costs of codependence can include distrust, faulty expectations, passive-aggressiveness, control, self-neglect, over-focus on others, manipulation, intimacy issues, and a slew of other harmful traits. Codependence causes serious pain and affects the majority of Americans—not just women and loved ones of addicts. Codependency For Dummies, 2nd Edition offers authoritative and trusted guidance on ways to raise your self-esteem, detach and let go, set boundaries, recognize healthy vs. dysfunctional relationships, overcome guilt and resentment, and much more. Helps you break the pattern of conduct that keeps you in harmful relationships Provides trusted guidance to create healthy boundaries, coping skills, and expectations Offers advice for eliminating feelings of guilt, blame, and feeling overly responsible Explains the difference between care-giving and codependent care-taking If you're trapped in the cycle of codependency and looking for help, Codependency For Dummies, 2nd Edition offers trusted advice and a clear plan for recovery.

Coping With an Abusive Relationship

Author: Carlene Cobb

Publisher: The Rosen Publishing Group, Inc

ISBN: 9780823928224

Category: Juvenile Nonfiction

Page: 112

View: 7984

Discusses the symptoms and effects of emotional, physical, and sexual abuse.

Empowered Love

Use Your Brain to Be Your Best Self and Create Your Ideal Relationship

Author: Steven Stosny

Publisher: Courier Dover Publications

ISBN: 048681940X

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 240

View: 1603

A couples therapist and relationship expert explains why conflicts between partners often result in a lack of self-control and compassion. This guide shows how to overcome destructive impulses and nurture loving and rational qualities.

Victims of Abuse, An Issue of Nursing Clinics - E-Book

Author: Sharon Stark

Publisher: Elsevier Health Sciences

ISBN: 1455709409

Category: Medical

Page: 131

View: 4325

This issue of Nursing Clinics of North America, Guest Edited by Sharon Stark, PhD, RN, APN-C, will focus on Victims of Abuse, with topics including: Types of Abuse ; Interpersonal Violence; Child Abuse; Elder Abuse; Bullying; Substance Abuse and Violence; Domestic Violence; Abuse in Nursing Homes; Nurses as Victims of Abuse; Issues of abuse in military deployment and military families; Abusive Behavior in the Workplace; The Relationship Between Abuse and Depression; Meeting the 2015 Millennium Development Goals With New Interventions for Abused Women; Community Services/Prevention; and Educational Considerations.

On Romantic Love

Simple Truths about a Complex Emotion

Author: Berit Brogaard

Publisher: Oxford University Press, USA

ISBN: 0199370737

Category: Philosophy

Page: 288

View: 6576

Romantic love presents some of life's most challenging questions. Can we choose who to love? Is romantic love rational? Can we love more than one person at a time? And can we make ourselves fall out of love? In On Romantic Love, Berit Brogaard attempts to get to the bottom of love's many contradictions. This short book, informed by both historical and cutting edge philosophy, psychology, and neuroscience, combines a new theory of romantic love with entertaining anecdotes from real life and accessible explanations of the neuroscience underlying our wildest passions. Against the grain, Brogaard argues that love is an emotion; that it can be, at turns, both rational and irrational; and that it can be manifested in degrees. We can love one person more than another and we can love a person a little or a lot or not at all. And love isn't even always something we consciously feel. However, love -- like other emotions, both conscious and not -- is subject to rational control, and falling in or out of it can be a deliberate choice. This engaging and innovative look at a universal topic, featuring original line drawings by illustrator Gareth Southwell, illuminates the processes behind heartbreak, obsession, jealousy, attachment, and more.

Toxic Parents

Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life

Author: Susan Forward

Publisher: Bantam

ISBN: 0307575322

Category: Self-Help

Page: 320

View: 4188

BONUS: This edition contains an excerpt from Dr. Susan Forward's Men Who Hate Women and the Women Who Love Them. When you were a child... Did your parents tell you were bad or worthless? Did your parents use physical pain to discipline you? Did you have to take care of your parents because of their problems? Were you frightened of your parents? Did your parents do anything to you that had to be kept secret? Now that you are an adult... Do your parents still treat you as if you were a child? Do you have intense emotional or physical reactions after spending time with your parents? Do your parents control you with threats or guilt? Do they manipulate you with money? Do you feel that no matter what you do, it's never good enough for your parents? In this remarkable self-help guide, Dr. Susan Forward drawn on case histories and the real-life voices of adult children of toxic parents to help you free yourself from the frustrating patterns of your relationship with your parents -- and discover an exciting new world of self-confidence, inner strength, and emotional independence.

How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It

Author: Patricia Love, Ed.D.,Steven Stosny, PH.D

Publisher: Harmony

ISBN: 0307496023

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 240

View: 4622

Men are right. The “relationship talk” does not help. Dr. Patricia Love’s and Dr. Steven Stosny’s How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It reveals the stunning truth about marital happiness: Love is not about better communication. It's about connection. You'll never get a closer relationship with your man by talking to him like you talk to one of your girlfriends. Male emotions are like women's sexuality: you can't be too direct too quickly. There are four ways to connect with a man:touch, activity, sex, routines. Men want closer marriages just as much as women do,but not if they has to act like a woman. Talking makes women move closer; it makes men move away. The secret of the silent male is this: his wife supplies the meaning in his life. The stunning truth about love is that talking doesn’t help. Have you ever had this conversation with your spouse? Wife: “Honey, we need to talk about us.” Husband: “Do we have to?” Drs. Patricia Love and Steven Stosny have studied this all-too-familiar dynamic between men and women and have reached a truly shocking conclusion. Even with the best of intentions, talking about your relationship doesn’t bring you together, and it will eventually drive you apart. The reason for this is that underneath most couples’ fights, there is a biological difference at work. A woman’s vulnerability to fear and anxiety makes her draw closer, while a man’s subtle sensitivity to shame makes him pull away in response. This is why so many married couples fall into the archetypal roles of nagging wife/stonewalling husband, and why improving a marriage can’t happen through words. How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It teaches couples how to get closer in ways that don’t require “trying to turn a man into a woman.” Rich in stories of couples who have turned their marriages around, and full of practical advice about the behaviors that make and break marriages, this essential guide will help couples find love beyond words.

Victory Over Verbal Abuse

A Healing Guide to Renewing Your Spirit and Reclaiming Your Life

Author: Patricia Evans

Publisher: Simon and Schuster

ISBN: 1440525803

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 240

View: 5984

"Patricia Evans brings you the tools you need to triumph over verbal abuse, no matter where or how you encounter it. She'll introduce you to a powerful healing process and provide: A thorough reveiw of available therapies; Strategies for dealing with abusers; Positive messages of support and encouragement; Inspiring affirmations for every week of the year"--P. [4] of cover.